Welcoming 2022

So here it is, another year, another resolution, another dream, another disappointment, another failure. Sorry to sound so gloomy, but is true, isn’t it?

How many of us welcome the new year like something vital in our mindset is just gonna change miraculously? Its 01/01 2022 and i wake up all of a sudden and the many years of habitual behaviours are gone, my neuropathways are deleted and reset, and i have drive and motivation to be the best at something i have never ever done.

SORRY BUT THINGS TAKE TIME AND TAKE WORK, THERE IS NO QUICK FIX!

I want you to succeed, heck i want to succeed, i want control of my future, to follow through with my goals and make something more of my existence, but it doesn’t just happen.

Diets, fitness challenges, they do not work long term, why? They are not sustainable, they are usually an athlete level of exercise , when the last time you worked out was back at high school PE classes. Heck you might get results, but how long until you feel bored, over it, then sad and want to indulge again. Or how long until you have a get together and everything goes out the window, the guilt begins and you are back to unhealthy habits. Come on people, these things can aid us in our journey, IF our ideas match a level of motivation, but we cant rely on quick fixes to do the job for us. As usual, i welcome you to work from the inside out, i am trying, i think it might even be working, sometimes.. We can not put a quick fix or a 2022 dream into place and expect things to JUST HAPPEN, we need to WORK, our ideas are grand to begin, they are a great fire starter, but they burn out, and we are left with the hard yards, the work.

What does it really mean to have a 2022 vision? Please don’t think you will wake up Jan 1st a new you, no, you must work on that vision, step by step. I am doing things differently this year, i am doing small steps toward my larger goals, my larger goals have no time limits, but the little steps do, i can set small tasks to help challenge myself and re-wire my brain , creating some new habits.

For instance, this month, i wont drink alcohol, yes it is my grand plan to stop drinking all together, but guess what happens if i fail…. DESPAIR, SELF HATE, GUILT, NEGATIVE TALK, all the things i am working so hard to fix and make less of a impact on me. So.. 1 month, 1 month i can do, one small baby step at a time, no guilt, no hatred and just a little step towards a bigger goal.

What else? hmmm…

I am studying coaching , in learning i am having to coach myself, so i have set myself small tasks, small challenges to help myself get through my study, as i know i have a habit of self sabotage. I will work little by little to make a bigger change in my life, allocating a bare minimum of 2 hours per day for study and coursework, if i do more then YAY, great! But… I am setting the bare minimum for the days i don’t want to do anything. Working at our bare minimum is not a bad plan, might i add… It holds us responsible for the minimum we can do, coz if you haven’t noticed, big tasks or commitments usually leads to a conversation like “oh but i am so tired, worked all day , i deserve some rest, a break” .. follows : Binge watching 10 episodes of “Emily in Paris”, leaving us with ZERO achievements and a sense of dread for the next day.

10 minutes per day, can you handle 10 minutes per day? If you have a fitness goal, and your bare minimum daily activity is 10 minutes, do you think you might be able to get up 10 minutes early, set that alarm and get it done? I think so, i think if you on the days where you are feeling low, say all i need to do is the bare minimum exercise today, 10 minutes, i am sure it wont be long before 10 minutes becomes 20 minutes, and so on. BUT on the bare minimum “i feel shitty days”, 10 minutes to meditate, 10 minutes to run, walk , read, whatever it is, i think you might actually be able to succeed.

Humans hate being bad at things, we hate sucking, honestly we do, and learning is sucking, growing is being average and trying to get better, so if we are gonna suck, in order to grow, lets set realistic tasks we can actually tolerate. You are your own worst enemy, but you are also your greatest opportunity, you can rewire your brain, but it wont happen from going to sleep 31/12 and waking up 01/01 suddenly able to handle an athletes workout schedule, its not sustainable, its not realistic and we don’t want to fail, so set a bare minimum task, achieve that daily and be STOKED when you achieve more ( and you will achieve more).

This year you can set your self up for wins, not failures, be realistic, be kind to your mind which is tired after work, your body which is exhausted from a big weekend, and enjoy yourself, coz we are creatures of habit and pleasure… Keep it real 🙂

With love always.